Terry May

It is with great sadness we announce the passing of Terry May, 41, of Pittsburgh, PA, on July 16th, 2025. He was born December 20, 1983, son of Jeffrey and Lynn May. He is survived by his parents, Jeffrey and Lynn May of Lancaster, his sister Sarah, daughters Mya May and Ava Bush, fiancée Erika Walker of Pittsburgh, and many extended relatives. He also leaves many other family members and friends who will sadly miss him. The memorial will be held Monday, August 4th from 4-8 with a service from 7-8 in Pittsburgh at D'Alessandro Funeral Home & Crematory Ltd., 4522 Butler St., Lawrenceville. A private family burial will be held in Lancaster, PA at a later date. Terry worked at Armina Stone as a Project Manager in Pittsburgh, PA. He was hired May of 2016 and for 9 years, he had his hand in almost every department. He spent time in the shop polishing, then on to installs, service and sales. He was extremely hands on, proactive and very knowledgeable in the granite industry. Recently, he was promoted to Project Manager over the builder division. Terry Arthur May was beloved by everyone who had the privilege of knowing him, a true best friend to people from all walks of life. A beautiful soul with a rare gift to connect with people. He approached life with a smile and a sunny disposition, carrying joyful energy wherever he went. His personality entered the room long before he did. Terry radiated kindness and warmth. A gentle, unassuming man with a sly sense of humor, an infectious giggle, hilarious impersonations, and flawless accents. He had a rare ability to break the ice in any room, often masking a more introverted nature beneath his playful charm. You were guaranteed to hear a story that included something funny, often slightly inappropriate but would have you laughing until your stomach hurt. With Terry, even the simplest moments became lasting memories. A true linguaphile, Terry was completely bilingual in Spanish and constantly learning new languages. He was a passionate intellectual, always interested in learning new things. Most notably Terry was intelligent, articulate, and able to jump into almost any conversation. Discussions about music, history, philosophy, religion, and politics were where his deep knowledge and thoughtful insight always stood out. His humor was shaped by the likes of Norm Macdonald, Shane Gillis, and Tony Hinchcliffe. Long car rides were a blend of thought-provoking podcasts Tim Dillon, Joe Rogan or his favorite music Steven Wilson Jr., Radiohead, Deftones, or instrumental guitar. Terry was beginning to explore the world more, embracing experiences he once thought were out of reach. The Kentucky Derby sparked a new love for horses and horse racing. His love for our NYC trips grew with every single bite of his favorite Ignazios Pizza, Down under the Brooklyn Bridge. He couldn't wait to get back to NYC. New York style pizza became an obsession and with that first bite, a pizza connoisseur was born. If Terry wasn't eating, he was getting ready to eat. If you had something, he definitely was going to ask for a bite. Couldn't gain weight to save his life. However, I was more amazed how such a huge personality fit in a man of his stature. The personality was definitively larger than him. His love for Dave Matthews grew into a passion for learning everything about playing the guitar. He became an amazing guitarist by studying his favorite guitarists Tom Henson (Polyphia), Tom Anello and Tobias Rauscher. Most evenings you could find him sitting with his guitar and his phone learning new songs. Many times, I would request a song, and he would have it down in under 30 minutes. The words of Stephen Wilson Jr. ring especially true in this moment: "Grief is only love that's got no place to go." Terry, your parting has left a void. You were dependable, always there when we needed you. You were our go-to when life got hard, the one who could bring laughter when we needed it most. You were a constant source of light in our life. You were our voice of reason in this crazy chaotic world, consistent source of comfort, our rational problem solver when emotions clouded our judgment. You gave sound advice without judgment, always delivered with honesty and love. You were one of a kind. Although you may be gone from this world, your legacy lives on through the people you have touched. We will carry your memories with us. You will live on in every laugh, every song, every memory. You will now forever be the melody glued to our memory. We will continue to honor your life in big, beautiful ways or honor your life quietly. We will keep your memory alive by sharing your story, pictures of you living life, doing good things in honor of you, listening to the music you loved, creating things and continue to honor your life by surviving in a world without you.

Terry May

December 20, 1983 - July 16, 2025